So Kevin & I have been in kind of a marital slump for, umm, well, a long time.
Like, since last Valentine's day. Seriously.
We had this fun couple's dinner on Valentine's day, and so Kevin created a little questionnaire for us all to do before-hand...y'know, to facilitate conversation & learning more about each other, & all that. But it kinda backfired. It personally launched us into weeks, and then months, of conflict, blaming, isolating, arguing...you know; all those relational things we slog thru before finally digging ourselves out of the muddy ruts we've been wallowing in for too long.
The weird thing is, I guess that little Valentine's questionaire didn't really backfire...it just went alot deeper than we anticipated. Cause all this mud we've been slingin' at each other over the past months, has actually made a huge difference in getting us out of those maddeningly-slippery ruts.
So we've made the leap - like we haven't done in 8 years - to step into an official, intentional, for-however-long-it-takes, Marital Fitness program. In other words - we're seeing a marriage counselor. Noooo, we're not on the brink of disaster, or contemplating divorce, or anything like that. We're just sick & tired of these frustrating patterns, of the suck-you-down-into-the-mirey-pit ruts.
And we're realizing that we have very little tolerance for marital sluggishness. We're both pretty passionate, expressive, high-maintenance people. Settling for a complacent, content, cool&calm&collected relationship just isn't in the cards for us. I've pretty much always been either madly, passionately in love with my husband...or so furious at him I could push him out the upstairs window.
Thus the need for a relationship workout. I'm tired of the flab in our marriage. We're not feeling maritally fit...and we're realizing there are practical, intentional things we can do to work out our relational-muscles, shape up, and turn this huff-&-puff marriage into something strong, enduring, and powerful.
After a summer of sporadic writing, I'm gonna try to get remotely more organized and actually post something every week, sharing our marital-fitness process.
Yeah, the good, the bad, & the ugly.
It might even get embarrassing. Intimate details & all that....
If you wanna join along, I'll be sharing the books we're reading, insight from our fit-marriage-coach (i.e., marriage counselor), and any other relevant gory-details.
So how's your marriage fitness? What's one of your top marital-strengthening exercises?